Sometimes, Leaving Is The Only Option Left
Have you ever been swept off your feet?
Have you ever been pursued and loved by someone you thought could be a very desirable character in one of the best novels you’re reading?
What makes up a great relationship by the way?
Answer:
1. Yes, I have.
2. Yes, and I thought that was like a fairytale. I am not an extraordinary girl, I don’t have the most desirable character like Cinderella. I have my flaws. I have my insecurities. I don’t belong to your idea of an elite world. I am not famous. I don’t have Miranda Kerr‘s curves…But I have won the heart of the most arrogant, selfish, and dominating male I have ever met. I was proud of that. Infact, it made me feel so happy. I felt great. I felt secure and I thought I was living in my fantasy. It was so beautiful. I suddenly stopped writing any more of my unpublished novels. I thought my reality is far better that the lyrical presentation of romatic things I imagined, and put through writing. I stopped dreaming. I literally stopped my once humble world from turning and entered another I thought, is far-fetched. But a romantic movie, a fantasy book, a fairy tale, hide so much from its reader/viewer. They definitely didn’t tell-all. They edited the bad parts, the downside of everything. They didn’t include the fighting scenes, the argument stage, the selfish moments, the ignoring part, the hatred, the tears of sadness, loneliness, worries, fear. They only portray a villain in most cases and of which the couple surpassed, and eventually have a happy life despite all. But in real life, the true villain is yourself. After few years of being dreamy, you wake up and see yourself unhappy. There is that hollow within, that the other person can’t void. You realize, a fantasy is indeed a fantasy. It doesn’t happen in our world. It is beyond mortal. And a fairytale happens in a world with fairies and magic wand. Not ours to experience. So it’s a dream. A dream that can’t be true.
3. So, how to make up a good relationship?
Well, I don’t know. But I know that love is an important factor. Love is not provided with the elaborations of fantastic presents and overflowing promises. A relationship is made up of two individuals who believe in the realization of true love. Two individuals who proclaim true devotions and prove it to be true on and on… True love believes in forever and literally lives in it, talks about it and reminds each other why they have to be together without selfish reasons. They have to be constantly respectful to each other despite ugly circumstances. Respect must be highly valued, for without it, love dies. Respect nourishes love, communication enriches love, acceptance assures love. When there is respect in relationship, you don’t fall easily because at the end of everything, you have that confidence that the person won’t humiliate you. When there is communication, love grows…love understands, love listens, love becomes romantic, love can be expressive…When there is communication, there are more laughters and eventhough tears come out, you’ll know some other will wipe it dry. You won’t be crying alone, love won’t be lonely. Acceptance is important because love needs to be embraced for whatever form it has. Acceptance is important because that’s what everyone of us long for…but acceptance is tough, it needs an open-mind and a kind heart. One cannot accept anything without believing that somehow it could make them well. We accept things because we lack of it, we need it for growth, or because we have to take care of it.
Apparently, I miss all those three. And I’m not really loved the way my sense of happiness dictates me to be…
